We are all capable of performing some deep soul searching in order to make the right choices, and become better and wiser at making those choices. We can make wiser choices for our hearts, our souls, our spirits, and our minds. We can make wiser choices about how we treat others because our treatment of them ultimately affects our lives. There is a time to be young and foolish, as the saying goes, but there is a time for maturity, where our lenses in life, and of life, should change, and change for the better, after we would learned from our past mistakes, things we have done and things that have been done to us. Endeavor to take better care of yourself, strive to take good care of yourself, determine to take beautiful care of yourself. Be careful how you live your life and how you treat others, it will determine how healthy your life will become mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.
When a situation is extremely difficult I find that to take care of myself better, I have to be careful how I react for my own sake, for my peace of mind, and that of other people’s, especially if I don’t want to go back and say I am sorry. For me, having to go back to say I am sorry, is a biting reminder to myself that I perhaps could have handled things better, differently, if I had just taken that one deep breath, paused and taken the higher ground. Easier said than done, it can be so very difficult to take that higher ground. Sometimes I want to pretend it doesn’t exist and I want to give in to my carnal nature and fight back! However, I find that if I take that one deep breath, walk away for a minute, a day, a week (dependent upon how deep the cut and how emotional I feel), I will find the strength, the peace and the wisdom to handle the situation or person more appropriately.
A positive, mature, and constructive response comes with a lot of practice and an attitude that is always less on the defensive. That’s why when we are angry, weak, confused and hurting, we should take better care of ourselves by not talking to just anyone, but selectively talk to a very few, who we know will keep our minds and spirits healthy by being straight shooters with us, and not encourage us to hold self-obsessed, bitter and angry pity parties. No matter what our upset, they are able to lovingly but firmly give us an objective and healthy perspective, one that helps us to go back and self-reflect, figure out how or where we went wrong, and what we could have done better. A lot of times it hurts, but if we want to take better care of ourselves, if we want to be a better individuals, we have to be careful and selective of who we allow to whisper into our souls, our hearts, our minds and our spirits, because we should only want the truth, which indeed does liberate us.
The more we assist ourselves in becoming better individuals, the deeper we are able to love ourselves, the better we are able to treat others, the more we are reminded to remain peaceful and use our power in a gentle but confident manner. We have the right and the capacity to be our best selves, even with all our imperfections, even when handling and dealing with other people’s imperfections. It brings you peace of mind, better self-acceptance and better self-love, not arrogance and pride, just gentle love and humility for yourself and towards others.
We can develop the ability to achieve quiet inner confidence and a power that propels us to serve and uplift, support and sustain others, bear up and bring solace to others. In turn, as we do so, we experience deeper peace, acquire greater strength, become filled with in depth wisdom, and the courage to love not only ourselves more and more, but others as well. It is not about becoming a people pleaser, it’s about becoming our better selves and taking better care of him or her. And as we do so, we become more careful about how we treat others and in turn it creates, develops and builds a healthier self-awareness, self-love and self-worth state of being.
Take good care of yourself!